I recently thought through the term “Date Zero Chicks” after I had
realized that,there’s a subset of women who do not stand the chance of
ever being asked-out on a first date.Let me clearly distinguish between
being asked-out and first date.–First date is not the first time a
guy asks you out for coffee or drinks, or the first time a guys agree to
hang out and watch a movie or meet out at a lounge. A date is when
someone asks you directly to do something with them,“just them”and it’s
a time that is set aside and made special. The reason I clarify is that
many women will say they can get dates, but then their dates really go
nowhere afterwards. That’s because those weren’t dates in the first
place.They were exploratory moments or simply just a man thinking "what
little effort can I put in to convince her that I’m putting in a whole
lot of effort and get….
‘em a**?"
How does a guy decide on the women that he wants to approach and the
ones he’ll pass on?What’s keeping some women from first dates?
I find that really simple but hard to explain in the official
language of the female gender(Venusivian)– no matter how men break “it”
down,you’ll never understand what men mean by
she has to have “it.”What I can tell you is that there are several reasons why women never
make it on the first date.While many women will disagree or claim that
they aren’t fair,I have to remind all of us that our goals determine
our actions.We can’t expect our goals to adjust and adapt to our
actions.It’s simple you must always meet the requirements for your
goals, not the other way around.If your goal is to go on a date then
you have to play the game, the way the game is
played.
With that, here’s a list of reasons why you’ll never make it on the
first date:
1.You don’t know when to keep quiet :
A piece of advice to all, “sometimes making your point is the most
irrelevant thing to do.” There’s a lot of confusion with learning when
to hold the tongue and feeling like women’s thoughts shouldn’t be
suppressed.Often times most women talk guys out o approaching them by simply not knowing when to stop
.
2.Your relationship goals seem to require a man, not the man:
After interacting with most women,it seems they want to be in
relationships,they want to be married, they want a husband and family,
but it doesn’t really ever matter who that person is as long as they
have the same goal. It reminds me of people who get degrees from no-name
schools just to say they have the degree, instead of those people who
identify the Top 25 or so schools and make it a point to go there
because the school matters to them.
3.You think that everyone should appreciates your flaws and character
traits,without complain:
“I want someone who is going to appreciate me
for me” society has evolved and you’ve got to accept who i am. It’s okay
to want someone who is going to accept that am not perfect.But note
that if there’s something that has to be change,you have to make that
happen.
eg.binge drinking
4.You want a clean slate but won’t offer the same to a man:
Most women are noted to have a tall list of reasons why they won’t date a
guy. They will most likely not date a guy who dated one of their
girlfriends, or if the guy has few skeletons in his closet from the
past. However, every
womanone deserves a second
, third, fourth, fifth chance.This is where the saying that “he who ask for equity must come with clean hands” apply.
5.You lack consistency:
There are tons of women do not realize that when they are so
inconsistent it cripples any man’s ability to take them seriously. They
want a serious relationship but gives the “hint” that they’ve got a
night-rider waiting in the depths of late night texts. They say they
want to settle down and get serious about getting married and starting a
family but their social media account is full of pictures of them @
various hot spots
in the city. And it’s not just your social life that needs consistency
but all facets. It could be your dedication to the gym and dieting
,career etc – Men (and women) appreciate consistency in the people they
wanna date.
Ref:www.singleblackmale.org
Mr. Gilbert Aggrey host of Okay FM's late afternoon show Ekwanso Dwodwoo , better known as Abeiku Santana officially tied the knot to cemented his
love affair with a banker, Genevieve Ewurafua Forson Saturday, September
28, 2013 at the Emmanuel Methodist Chapel at East Airport, Accra.
“Gene is a gift from God and we being together again is by the divine grace of God.I
have known Gene in Kumasi since 2001 before coming to Accra where I met
and married Maggie, my ex. As God’s ways are not our ways and luck
being on my side, Gene was still single so I took that bold step,
proposed and she accepted,” Santana told Showbiz in an interview
recently.
